Do you remember this promise you made with your best friend when you were at school ?
“we’ll be the best friends of the world”
Do you remember this feeling of happiness you felt at this moment ? Do you remember all these awesome moments spent together ? Yeah, you do ?! Great thing. Now, look at your back & tell me if she/he’s still there.
For me, she’s not here anymore. I’ve had some rough times with my exs best friends when I was at school. Now, I don’t believe in the “best friends thing”. It doesn’t make sense to me. I can’t have just ONE best friends, I have some many (well, not that much, but anyway) great friends that I can’t choose just a person to be my best friend. Well, I could but I’m too scared of not “being” her/his best friend, so I prefer saying “I don’t have a bff”.
That’s the thing with friendship, you always feel insecure, well it’s my case. I always feel I’m not good enough to be friend with that person, that she/he doesn’t “like” me as much as I like her/him, that she/he considers me just like a mate.
Yeah there’s a HUGE difference between a mate & a friend. I mean. A mate is someone you appreciate, you can laugh with, someone from your sport class, etc. But you’ll never tell him/her your deepest secrets. A friend is someone you love, you can’t spend a day without talking to him/her, you could kill for her/him, you know/feel what happens on her/his mind without a word, he/she’s the only one who knows your fears, your deepest secrets, your “black” moments & will be always here to hold your hand. Yep, that’s the difference between a mate & a friend.
I love my friends. I truly do. I could do anything for them. But sometimes I feel like I’m the only one who misses them, like if I was just a mate, just a person they like but not very important in their life. I don’t blame them. We all have a life to live. I mean. I don’t want a big declaration of love from my friends, no, not at all, I can’t ask them that, it won’t be fair. All I’d “want” is just to feel peaceful about our friendship, not to worry about the “does she/he miss me ?” “am I only a mate ?” things.
Yeah I know, I ask a lot. But what do you want, insecurity makes part of me. I deal with it everyday. Sometimes I win, sometimes I don’t. I think there’s no way to feel “peaceful” about friendship, because you know, it’s not something stoical, it lives, it changes (in a good or bad way), it stops (sometimes unfortunately). All we can do, is just live & don’t think about what comes next (Carpe Diem). I know, easy to say, but not easy to do. But I love so much my friends to give up. So yeah, it won’t be easy but I’ll do my best for keeping my friends with me. I don’t promise it’ll work, but at least I’ll try.
“do you feel enough strong to fight for our friendship ?”
Me, I do.